Tuesday, September 28, 2010

What is it like being the preacher's wife?

I am often ask what it is like being the preachers wife, I just say it's good. There are days that I want to just open up and let it fly. Out of all the hats that I wear, this is the hardest one! There are days when I would just LOVE to tell somebody exactly what I think, but I don't. There are days that I would just LOVE to call out the others for the wrong that their children are doing like they do mine, but I don't. There are days that I would just LOVE to say, O really, well let me inform you, but I don't. I know that God calls the pastor's wife just as He calls the pastor. He did not call me to preach, but He called me to Love, Support and Help my husband in any way possible. I know that when the phone call comes at 3:00 am, I am to get up and help my husband get things together so he can go help another family. I know that when I am getting very excited about having a day off with my husband so we can spend time together, that I am to say "it's okay" when somebody else calls for him to go be with them. I know what it is to be on the backburner, God sends me blessing in many other ways!

It's not fun living in the glass house when you know so many eyes are watching. The are looking to see what you wear, to see what your kids are wearing, to see how you act and how your kids are acting. So many times my kids have heard me say "I know you didn't choose to be a preacher's kid, but God choose you!" He has a plan for each one of my children. He is going to use them Greatly because of what they have had to endure over the years. My prayer so often is "God please let them see the good in other church members, I know they have see the bad." I rejoice daily seeing Amber involved in church. She witnessed things in our lives that others didn't get to see, and I was very scared that she would just walk away from church thinking, "why do I want to be like the rest of the church members?" She has seen me smile standing in front of people that have said horrible things about my husband. I know that God wants me to show them Him - not me. If I stoop to how they have acted, but those who are watching will not see the God that I serve!

So no, it's not easy, but God blesses me daily! I am thankful for Him choosing me, I know that I am not the most qualified, and I have many scars and battle wounds, but I am His!

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  1. These are great. I was nodding my head reading through each of them because they are all things I know have happened to you in the past. For the record, I think you handle being a pastor's wife beautifully with much grace.

  2. I agree with Amber. You are a blessing to me!